A few of my favorite quotes came from a women by the name of Edith Wharton, an American writer. In light of throw back Thursday today I’m sharing them with all of you:
A few of my favorite quotes came from a women by the name of Edith Wharton, an American writer. In light of throw back Thursday today I’m sharing them with all of you:
If you could pick one emoji to describe your mood this morning what would it be?
Check your mood this morning, in this moment. What do you notice about it and how does your mood make you feel?
Our moods are very much a temporary state of mind and can change quickly. However, in the moment without intending too, our moods can directly impact the people we love most (either good or bad, depending). In my opinion, I am glad that our moods are not stuck in any given state forever and we have the ability to change them whenever we choose to. However, it’s good to reflect on your moods once and a while. Your moods can be a good indicator of your overall well being. Self reflection may be the medicine your soul needs to turn a not so good mood into the best mood! What are you waiting for? Give it a try. It’s never too late to change your mood.
When you looking inwardly at your mood, what are you observing about yourself as you are going about your morning? Think about your feelings and the people, places and things that may have triggered this specific mood or moods in you. How does this mood make you feel right now? How is the atomosphere of your home and what are your family members like this morning? While you think about these things, relax and take a couple of deep breaths in and out.
When I check myself, I’m noticing a trend lately. I tend to wake up tired most mornings. Therefore, I am also lacking energy. Yet I don’t feel like I’m in a bad mood and start out in fairly good mood. I start slowly waking up when the hot shower hits my face and runs over my body and I feel like I’m in my happy place. I wonder if this is my happy place because it’s about the only moment in my day where I am by myself. This is my uninterrupted time as my family is still sleeping. It’s also a place in my day where my thoughts are my own and this allows my mind to run freely without interruption.
As my morning continues on, I can literally feel that happy mood start to dwindle. My husband is making annoying noises in the kitchen as I constandly shoosh him and remind him the kids are sleeping still, then the kids start to wake up and are already demanding things from me from their bedrooms and I’m not quite ready for them to be awake yet, the dog is scratching at the back of my leg while I make breakfast because she wants her head scratched and the cat is meowing in the background because she wants her food and water bowls filled up.
Little by little things trigger my mood to unwind into a downward spiral and I begin to already feel my lack of patience with my family members fester and in general, I become irritable. These moods come on fast and strong. I quickly forget the many blessings of my morning and all the reasons I should be happy instead of the negative mood I’m in that has overcome me. Don’t get me wrong, there are moments of happiness and joy inbetween the negative, but those negative feelings have a way of overcasting that joy (because I let them).
However, it’s always noticible that once I’m in that place of a negative mood, my overall mindset and mood for the day isn’t as upbeat as it was when I initially woke up and started my day. My mood starts to affect my kids and my husband. If I feel stressed, my kids and husband feel it and start acting out of whack too. If I yell, everyone is yelling. Before you know it we are all arguing and fighting and my heart feels anxiety filled.
I’m just wondering if I am the only mom this happens to?
What if I told you that it doesn’t have to be this way? I’m wondering if you’d believe me? I have my doubts myself, but when I stop and truly think about it, I believe it all boils down to our choices.
If you have never done a self-relection on your mood, I’m sure you are not alone. You likely haven’t had time to think about it much. However, you need to. Seriously, you need to stop what you are doing and take just a moment to do some self reflection.
In my mind, mood and self-reflection go hand in hand. Have you ever heard the saying, if mom isn’t happy, then nobody is happy?
Stopping and thinking about this phrase this morning and observing how my own mood was affecting my entire household, it was an eye opener for me. Yesterday, I wrote about things that made me happy. That was a choice. I could easily have written about things that made me unhappy. We really do have the power to choose happiness and joy no matter what.
Emotional responses to your children can oftentimes reflect your mood. I tend to be a high stress person, and I am a worrier by nature. This can oftentimes, and very unintentionally, bounce onto my kids. If I become easily angry and my child does one thing that irks me, my reaction or way I interact with her about her behavior may be more intense then it would have normally been if I wasn’t in an angry sort of mood to begin with. Yet it has nothing to do with her. She doesn’t know this though. Imagine how she internalized that interaction and how it may have greatly impacted her in a negative way? We don’t think about this in the moment. However, afterwards it sure doesn’t make me feel good when I do think about it. I am by no means perfect, but I surely can always do better….and I’m trying. Self awareness is always the first step.
Children can so often feed off our our negativity. We sit and wonder why our child is acting out, or yelling at us, or responding to our requests of them in a less desirable way then expected? Again, I want you stop and take a good look in the mirror. This can often be a reflection of yourself and how you carry yourself with them. It’s so important to be aware and cautious of this very thing. We can choose a different path if only we become self aware of our moods that may trigger these actions in the first place.
The next time you feel a bad mood rising within, take a deep breath and be aware of how your bad mood can be fostering a negative environment in your household. Find ways to deal with your negative moods in a constructive manner before they start to affect others, especially those very important little loves in your lives. Dig deep and figure out what triggered your bad mood in the very beginning and deal with that issue first before you deal with other issues or people around you. Have your very goal each morning be to have a contagious good mood that you model to your children.
We have the ability to choose joy and choose happiness everyday in any circumstance we are in. Imagine how amazingly different our lives would be if we made this choice? You have nothing to lose by trying. It’s time we all start taking more time to inwardly start looking at ourselves. I can almost bet you, our family lives would improve for the better.
If you are having trouble going at this alone, take time to talk to God and humbly ask for His guidance. Sometimes it’s hard to look inside ourselves when the temptation to be bitter, unforgiving, and bummed out is sitting so heavy on our shoulders. God doesn’t want us to stay in this place. It is unsettling and it affects everyone around us.
I know we all have our moments, but overall, wouldn’t you rather be a Mom contagiously spreading love, joy, and kindness like confetti more often then not? In my mind, it paints a much happier & healthier picture!
…on happy thoughts.
I heard this song as I was driving this morning and thought it was beautiful. I think it’s always amazing when God knows just the thing you need to calm your worried heart. This morning, it was this song. Of course it inspired me and made me want to share it with all you beautiful and loving Mama’s out there.
Sometimes, we lack the right words to say in prayer and I just thought this was such a beautiful prayer in the form of a song, for our children. We have so many promises that we give to our children that come from our hearts and oh so many things we want to teach them. We hope that what we teach them while they are young is instilled in them and they are able to carry these teachings with them throughout their life. We want everything for these little beings that occupy so much of our heart and lives. For me, this includes having a strong faith.
However, sometimes it is worriesome when they are not in our care or when they venture off to do something by themselves. Will they be ok? Will they make the right choices? Will someone be there for them if they are upset? Will they be kind hearted. Will their needs be taken care of? A worried mom’s heart is always filled with so many questions when she has to part from her babies.
Some days it feels like we have it all together as their parents and other days it feel like we have failed them. No matter what kind of day you are having with your children, I think one thing is constant-our love for them is out of this world and their love for us is too. I believe they can feel our love and are reminded of it it many ways, even when we are not present with them.
Through good or bad days as their parents, we are the constant that guides them through every single day over their years here on Earth. We are the positive and the ones they really are listenting to, even when we think that they are not. I’m going to be 34 this year, and I still think of things my parents said to me growing up and am reminded of their love for me on a daily basis. I can’t tell you how comforting this can be to me.
It’s certainly a bittersweet thing to watch our children grow and expand their wings but to whole heartedly trust in God to take care of them and trust in him to help guide them is an amazing thing. It gives our troubled and worried hearts a break. It makes parting ways, even for short moments, more peaceful.
I hope you enjoy this song as much as I did. It is my prayer for you that it can still your hearts this morning if they are feeling heavy or worried about your kiddos today for you are one of their greatest teachers. That being said, they’ve got a great start in this amazing thing called life!
Last night I was invited to sub on my friend’s co-ed soccer team. Initially, I thought of a million and ten excuses as to why I shouldn’t play. Deep down I knew I wanted to play. It is so easy for me to go to a place where I put my wants, desires, needs, etc. behind everyone elses. Can you related to this in some way? Off the top of my head, I immediately can think of a few other mom-friends of mine who do the same thing. Why we do this to ourselves I don’t know. Moms deserve time for themselves and time away that doesn’t involve guilty feelings for doing so.
I am thankful for my husband who encouraged me to play. A little push was all I needed. Sometimes a little motivation from others is all we need to just do that thing we so desperately need to do. I have to say, I had a blast playing soccer last night and I do not have any regrets taking some time away for me.
However, when I was done playing, I decided to call my husband to let him know that I was on my way home so he had an estimated time as to when to expect me back for the night. We barely got two words in edge wise when I could hear my 5 year old daughter bgegging my husband to talk to me in the background. My husband handed over the phone and as soon as I said, “Hey Sweetie, I’m almost home, ” my daughter burst into big girl tears. They ligitimately were so sad sounding that my anxiety about not physically being there for her was through the roof.
Her tears alone, were enough to rip my heart strings in half. If it’s one thing that is so hard as a mom, it is hearing your babies crying (like really crying) and you are not there to hug them or kiss them and make them know you are there for them. It is so very hard and I was feeling so bad.
I immediately ask her what the matter was, trying to do what I could over the phone to calm her down. I did my best to assure her that Mama was here for her even though I wasn’t there in person in that moment. Of course I was expecting the worst case senerio behind the reason for the tears. Deep down though, I knew my husband was there and he was capable of taking are of the girls without me and knew she was likely really fine.
Just like that though, those guilty mom feelings starting overtaking my brain and flooding my heart. I remember the first thought I told to myself was that I shouldn’t have played soccer tonight. Secondly, I should have listened to my gut when my daughter hugged me extra long before I left and didn’t want me to go then. Thirdly, that gosh Nichole, you are such a selfish mom for leaving tonight. When my daughter finally was able to speak through tears she caught me completely off guard when she said, “Mama, I just really miss you. Are you almost home? Please come home. I just want to snuggle with you and have you hold me.”
In that moment, I smiled. I smiled a smile of pure joy. I don’t leave my daughters too often to have “me time” but tonight I did and my abscence was dearly missed. With feeling so burnt out lately, with all that I give of myself, many days I simply feel like I am not appreciated in the least-but the fact that my daughter noticed me NOT there just hit me like a ton of bricks (in a good way).
I guess the old saying rings true. Absence, indeed, does make the heart grow fonder. I was only away for about two hours last night. However, in those two hours my daughter missed me-like really missed me- and I think in her own little way showed me that she appreciates my love an affection and that she can feel it so much harder when we are apart.
When I walked in the door, what do you think happened last night? You betcha, my 5 year old greeted me with big hug, her beautiful smile, the look of pure happiness to see me and practically screamed, “MAMA!!!!” in the most excited tone I’ve ever heard her scream before! It was the best feeling and gives me chills just thinking about that moment.
I typically put my youngest to bed and my husband puts my oldest to bed. However, we switch roles last night. Honestly, it’s been a while since we’ve done this. I could tell my oldest really needed that time with me. In a way, I needed it with her too! We did a children’s 5 minute devotional and had a nice chat about it, read two bedtime stories together, said our prayers and then we snuggled in her bed while I tickled her back until she fell asleep.
There were so many times this week I just wanted to get away from my kids because they were driving me up the wall. However, when I walked in my house last night, in that moment it truly felt good to be home with my daughter in my arms and her little arms squeezing me as tight as they possibly could. It felt so good that she genuinely wanted my love and affection and appreciated it all in the same. This right here folks is one of the best feelings in the world.
What did this teach me? It taught me that I am not scheduling enough “me time” away from my kids, haha! No but really, it was a funny lesson for me that time away from each other, as hard as it is for me and for my kids, proves to be healthy for everyone in our family! It’s one of the most important things you can do!
It’s crazy to think that together, my husband and I have been making memories in our first home for 9 years already. It’s crazy how we went from this tiny one bedroom apartment, to a house that is now our home. So much has changed in our lives since we moved to our house. I can understand why people become attached to their home and how hard it must be to move as there are so many memories that happen within those walls! Our first house warming gift was a decorative plate that said, “Bless this House with Love and Friends” we’ve been blessed with love and friends and so much more over the last 9 years! Thankful, grateful and happy!
Today I am throwing back this picture of our house before we actually even moved in and I’ve been reflecting on our journey and where we are today….it’s truly amazing when you think of time and where you are and what’s come from the path you’ve taken a long the way. God is good! I am looking forward to see how the next 9 years will pan out for us and where the road will take us.
Easter is just around the corner. Many parents, myself included, have a hard time figuring out what exactly the Easter Bunny should fill our kid’s baskets with to surprise them on Easter morning. Every morning I see Mom’s asking asking other moms for ideas and to help brain storm ideas for their kids. This seems to be the main topic on my Facebook Mom groups on a daily basis. I can relate with these moms on needing ideas. If we are honest with ourselves, it sure feels like big feet to fill being the Easter bunny!
For me, it gets harder to come up with ideas each year to make it fun and different and exciting. I love when the belief is so real and the innocence is still there. I will do anything to keep it alive because my oldest is 5 and I know in a few short years she will be rolling her eyes at me telling me her belief is squashed. It makes me sad just thinking about it.
So, if you are wondering what main items the bunny is putting in my kids baskets this year, you’re in luck because I am going to share my ideas on this series of Wondering on Wednesdays. My girls are 5 and 1 and some of the ideas I’m going to share could very well be gender neutral as well, but if you are looking for some ideas for girls ages 5 & 1, it’s your lucky day!
I will start with the ideas I have for my 5 year old daughter:
5. Unicorn Water Bottle: Unicorn print is all the rave with my 5 year old. You can never have too many water bottles in your household and if you are like my active little lady, she is always thirsty so it’s important we always have water bottles ready for her, especially when we are on the go. We’ve also been known to leave behind water bottles at sport events or even lose them. Back ups are a must. The one I found her is again, similar, but not exact to the one pictured below. You can find the one below on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/3C4G-Unicorn-Tritan-Aluminum-Carabiner/dp/B073S338ZV/ref=sr_1_4?s=sporting-goods&ie=UTF8&qid=1521031816&sr=1-4&keywords=unicorn+water+bottleMoving on now to my 1 year old daughter:
One thing do not forget on Easter is explaining the reason behind this special holiday: He is risen! It’s such wonderful opportunity to talk to your children about Jesus! Not mentioned above, but I highly suggest sneaking in some religious related items to get the conversation with your child(ren) started. Children’s devotional books are wonderful, especially for 4 year old +. One I suggest is:
There are also so many wonderful board books for our littles as well. One that comes to mind is called, The Easter Story, as Witnessed By The Animals: