… on 10 things I had no idea were a privledge to me as a kid, that I realize were total privledges now as an adult and 10 things I am now privleged to do/have as an adult that I had no idea were privledges to adults as a kid (all self explanatory, haha).
- A trip to McDonalds. As an adult, I am not a huge fan of McDonalds and try to avoid this place at all causes. I also try to keep eating there to a minimal when it comes to my kids. However, there are McDonalds at what seems every corner I turn where I live and if I chose to, I could go to them whenever I wanted on a daily basis. Basically, it’s used as a “treat” in this house as well (even though in my opinion, it is far from a treat). When I was growing up, there wasn’t a McDonalds in my home town so when we stopped at one it was mainly when we were going to Rice Lake, WI on our shopping trips with Mom. I vaguely remember stopping at McDonalds on vacation trips as a family as well. However, it just wasn’t a huge part of my life growing up because it wasn’t an option. As a kid I remember how exciting it was pulling into the golden arches. How I would crave a Big Mac or their french fries. As an adult, I grumble at the sight of them and can not even stomach a big Mac–but I smile thinking about what a big deal it really was to me growing up!
- A pair of Nike athletic shoes. As an adult I own endless pairs of Nike’s. I even have a couple pair of Nike flip flops. When buying a pair of athletic shoes, I rarely think twice about visiting a Pay-Less, a K-Mart (do these even exist anymore) or a Wal-Mart. In fact, I don’t think I’d ever resort to any of these places to buy a good quality athletic shoe. Growing up, this wasn’t an option for me and I can’t tell you the excitement and joy walking into a Pay-Less was for me growing up! I’m assuming because the price was right at those other three stores when it came to buying shoes is the main reason I never owned a pair of Nike’s growing up. Times were tough growing up so I can imagine getting a pair of Nike’s for me were the least of my parent’s concerns and not a priority. In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever seen my parents wear a pair of Nike’s in my entire life, still to this day. You can imagine my excitement the first time I bought a pair of Nike’s for myself with my own money. I remember distinctly the day. I bought a pair of Nike High Tops for Basketball and I seriously thought I was the shit! I think of this almost everytime I purchase a pair growing up and how hard I had worked for that 1 pair of shoes. I am thankful that my parents never bought me a pair growing up because the satifaction and excitement of buying my first pair on my own was something I will never forget.
- If you wanted to talk to someone you either had to visit them, write them, or call them up to talk to them. Lets face it, times were much more simple without the use of cell phones and other technololgy that has been invented since I was a kid. Never would I have thought that I could be 4 hours away from my parents when I grew up and I’d be able to call them up on my tablet and FaceTime them. Never did I think I would have a cell phone that I can be in contact with anyone at the quick click of a button. I can’t tell you the last time I actually wrote a hand written letter. When I stop and think about it, I kind of miss how the more simple of times made us have more intimate means of conversation. Sure, it wasn’t easy…but we didn’t miss what we didn’t have or even knew existed at the time.
- Home cooked meals every single night. I rarely remember a meal that my mom didn’t make herself. I never went hungry and my mom’s food was always delicious. As much as I strive to be like her in that way, there are times where convience foods make it much easier to complete a dinner. I truly had no idea how lucky I was growing up to have a hot, home-cooked meal each and every single night for me. Now, I do 95% of the cooking and although I learned my kitchen skills from the best, nothing beats mom’s cooking!
- Living in a small town. I live in smaller community within a bigger city only a hop, skip and a jump away. Although I’ve lived here for a while now, I still can go out in the community on any given day and not recognize a single face. Growing up in Amery, everyone knew everyone and very seldom did you see a face that you didn’t recognize or know. It’s crazy how even now, when I go back home to visit my parents and I am out and about-it never fails, I see a familiar face or still see someone I know and there is always that brief conversation with these people in the grocery store, gas station or while just walking down the street. It is so comforting and in my opinion, this is what makes home feel like home. As much as I like (I’m still not to the love status) where I live, I don’t always find that same comfort here and I miss it dearly.
- Driving a beater car during high school and my first few years of college. I did not appreciate my first car. It was white and polka-dotted full of rust spots. I didn’t know if it would get me from point A to point B most days. It was first my grandparents car, then my parents car, then my older sister’s car (eventually got handed down to my younger sister before it completely died). It was ugly and it was embarrassing, especially when friends of mine had much better cars then mine. I would be the last one to offer friends rides and I would park far away at events in hopes no one would see that that beast belonged to me. Again, I purchased my first car in college and to go from my 1989 Pontiac 6000 to my 2006 Chevy Malibu was one of the best feelings in the world. I wouldn’t have traded it from anything. Since my malibu I have been driving a 2011 Chevy Traverse (possibly in the market for something different in the next year or two) and the appreciation I feel every time I drive it is amazing because I know what it’s like to not have all the bells and whistles. I was, however, very lucky that my parents gave me anything at all at the time.
- Having my mom be a stay at home mom. As we all, I think are guilty of growing up, we do not appreciate our parents as much as when we are adults. I think even more so we appreciate them when we become parents ourselves. Now that I am a stay at home mom, I see things so differently and think back to when my mom stayed home with me. How lucky was I? I can’t even begin to put into words how much this women sacrificed for me and how hard it must have been to be a stay at home parent. It isn’t easy, and I know this now.
- Family get togethers at my Grandma & Grandpa Lee’s house. At the time, this seemed boring and routine as a kid. Now that I’m an adult and my grandma and grandpa has long passed along with other family members and the fact that we rarely have the Lee side get together, I find myself missing these times and cherished memories and wishing we could make more.
- New clothing. Because I had an older sister, I mostly always got hand me downs and I never had a full closet of clothing. I mostly had enough clothing to last me the week then we did laundry and repeated this cycle until my clothes were outgrown and I needed new. Then there was the point where my older sister stopped growing and I got to get my own clothes brand new. As an adult I buy new clothing practically whenever I choose to or can afford too. Growing up, I didn’t really think about the clothing on my back or how new clothes came about but new clothes are expensive so it really was a treat to get something new then and honestly, I take this for granted as an adult because although it’s a treat now it seems that I am able to purchase new much more frequently not only for myself but also for my girls.
- A clean house. My mother loved (and still does) a clean house. I think it not only stressed her out, but it also was frustrating when the house was dirty or a mess. This is for good reason. I also love a clean house, but I feel like it doesn’t stay clean for long and I do not enjoy cleaning. I often let other things take priority over this. I honestly miss a clean house that I didn’t have to worry about so much as I do now.
- Playing a simple board game. When we were young and we were “bored” one of the first things we did was play board games with each other and had lots of genuine fun doing so. Now, if I play a board game with my daughter, she doesn’t seem to find the same joy as I did growing up playing them and I often hear her say right in the middle of playing, “I’m bored, lets be done.” Games are so much more enjoyable with the right groups of kids/people and I often wonder if these kinds of kids or groups of people exist among today’s society anymore.
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- Reading a book, watching TV…basically doing anything enjoyable without interruption.
- Eating dinner without a child on my lap or poking at my food with her dirty fingers, or drinking my milk without my child’s backwash.
- Going to bed when I want to go to bed, not having to be woken up in the middle of the night, and sleeping in to my hearts desire.
- Eating out at a nice resturaunt.
- Not having to watch PBS kids whenever the TV goes on.
- Going about my day without a child having a meltdown or whining about everything on God’s green Earth.
- Having a pallet of eyeshawdow that is in tact without it being crumbly due to kids dropping it or pressing their little fingers in it.
- Date nights with my husband or little overnight/weekend getaways without the kids without feeling guilty.
- Shirts that are not stretched due to the kids constantly pulling on them to get your attention.
- The time in my life where the only puke I had to clean up was my own from a night of binge drinking in college…haha, oh those were the days!
Now, humor me and tell me one thing that was a privlege to you as a kid that you only realized was a privlege when you were a adult and tell me one privlege you have as an adult that you didn’t realize was a privledge when you were a kid…