Two pregnancy announcements this week almost seems like too to stomach. Especially when we are going through the whirlwind of a cancelled IVF cycle. We are also facing the facts that we can not attempt another IVF cycle because of money. Therefore, not only are we dealing with this blow, but the extreme disapointment of figuring out how to accept that we only have a 1-2% percent chance of conceiving on our own if we don’t do IVF. Basically, we are being forced to close this chapter in our lives and let go of this dream of another child to complete our family. We are happy for others, but so incredibly sad for ourselves. It can be easy to get angry and feel jealous and question why them and not us?
However, today, I am going to take a couple deep breaths and focus simply on my breathing. Instead of focusing on the cards that we’ve been dealt being unfair and being bitter about what isn’t happening for us and being jealous about what is working in the lives of others I am going to try and put all my focus on the blessings God has given me.
The silver lining to all of this is that I have two beautiful daughters. We gave E a sibling. Thankfully, IVF did work once for us before. These two sisters have each other in their life journey and I am forever thankful for that. They are both healthy and thriving and my heart knows the joy of being a mother. I get to see my husband be a Dad (and a great one at that) and share this crazy journey of parenthood with my best friend and it makes me so happy. Really, I couldn’t be more grateful for all of these blessings. Thank you God, my heart may have a void but for the most part it is full. Zach, Etta and Kynnslee are gifts and I cherish them all so deeply.